It is freezing cold outside. According to my weather plugin for Trillian, it is forty-one degrees. I had to crank up the heater and dust the mothballs off the thicker blankets.
I watched a good movie with Jody tonight. It’s called ‘All the Real Girls‘. I’m not really a movie critic or even really a movie buff (I don’t feel I have the gift of analysis that way as I tend to get to caught up in things I watch), but I will say that I found many things about it have come close to my experiences of male/female relations and some things about life in general. By virtue of that similarity it was enjoyable and illuminating. It made me think a lot about what it means to be a human being navigating the joys and sorrows of relationships. Not just between men and women but also between friends as well as parents and children. It also made me think about how in relationships each person perceives and acts from their own point of view and in that sense you can never completely know any other person because even if you could somehow totally experience another person’s point of view it would still be interpreted from your own subjective and potentially skewed vantage point. Not only that, but sometimes when people act completely unpredictably it calls into question what you see when you see the other person. Does the other person in any relationship even really know themselves? Do you see the other and their behaviors and personality or just your idea of who they are?
And now, a comment from a humble blogghopper… Don’t worry about being without “the gift of analysis.” You hit the nail on the head: relationships are all about one’s perception…which is why we drive each other nuts. ‘Ah, yes, I do care about you, now pardon me while I quietly become a basket case because I thought I had you figured out.’ Viewpoints will always be skewed according to one’s self-esteem. Yikes. Now there’s a scary thought.
Sounds like a good film! As usual, I enjoy your observations. I may just have to rent the video this very evening.
Laurie: This reminds me of an idea I had about how self-consciousness can really be a bad thing since it tends to create greater subjectivity.
Jenny: Yay! I’m glad someone is enjoying my observations.